Mindful News Blog
Wednesday, 12 November, 2014
I work shoulder to shoulder with the doctors and nurses that treated me two years ago. They have no idea, they don’t even recognize me. They know me as a friend and colleague. Clients walk in and they express the fear, sadness, and hopelessness of their active addiction. I say, I sat in your seat. I have remained sober for almost two years now. I feel fear, anger, sadness and loneliness; but I also feel happiness, hope, love and belonging. I live a life of imperfection. I call my sponsor and talk to him about these things. I go to a meeting, I read the book, and I work the steps. I go home, get in bed, and close my eyes. I think, I didn’t use today, I didn’t even think of using today. I felt all these feelings and I didn’t have to use today. I am so grateful that I can be a friend, a colleague, and witness to others. I am grateful that I can feel any combination of feelings and remain sober. I am grateful for being a drug addict. My addiction has brought me to a new understanding and acceptance of myself and the world around me. For those of you who were like me, I say you are not alone. You don’t have to do this alone. You don’t have to suffer as I did. It is possible to be grateful for your past and hopeful for the future.
Wednesday, 5 November, 2014
Growing up, my mother emphasized the importance of saying my “pleases” and “thank yous.” As a result, I have rarely forgotten to say “thank you” when appropriate. However, looking back on my life before getting sober, I can’t say that I always meant it. It was more of a formality, something that I had to do. Like most things in my life prior to getting sober, I was able to be physically present and to appear as though I meant what I said, but my heart was rarely in it. Over the past 21 months, being in the program has softened some of the rigidity that characterized me over the past two decades. As I have let myself be open to suggestions and the ways of others, I have learned that the way that I do things, while very efficient at times, is not the only way to do things. Understanding the concept of gratitude has been one of the many new ideas that I have learned. In treatment and through my sponsor, I was introduced to the idea of writing a “Gratitude List.” It seemed so simple to me, yet it was so difficult for me to sit down and actually write one. Like most things in this program, it was the seemingly “easy” ones that I never seemed to be able to do. Probably because they seemed too easy; what was the catch? This aversion to these simple tasks kept me away from the serenity that I feel today for a while. I don’t remember the first time that I sat down to write my own Gratitude List, but I remember the feeling. Upon completion, I was overwhelmed with a sense of peace, and for lack of a better word, gratitude. There were so many little things that I had in my life (and some very big things) that I forgot about every day. Forgetting these things is what kept me from truly enjoying the life that I had started to build for myself. Forgetting these things allowed me to continue getting angry at the driver in front of me who was driving too slowly for my liking, or getting restless when the line was too long at Starbucks. These days, I like to try to keep, in the forefront of my mind, all that I have in my life, the things that I have always had and the new things that I have been blessed with as a direct result of getting sober and trying a new way of life. I can’t say that I am grateful all day everyday, but when I take the time to remember just how lucky I am and how much I have in my life today, all my problems seem to carry much less weight.
Friday, 31 October, 2014
Let’s get the word out, folks!
We have included links to two advertisements for the REEL Recovery Film Festival for posting in twelve step meeting halls, church & coffee shop community bulletin boards and “under a magnet” on the refrigerators of every recovery residence from Port St. Lucie south to Miami.
Let’s work hard and smart. These films and workshops support the recovery community. We will all benefit greatly by driving robust attendance at the Movies of Delray November 7 & 8.
FARR volunteers are needed to man a sign up table where attendees can add their email addresses to a distribution list and select which organizations they want to hear from including FADAA, FFR, FARR, YPR, CRC, etc.
Please encourage your staff and clients/residents to get the word out. We should ask permission before posting a poster or flyer, then make certain that that poster is maintained between now and November 7th & 8th. We anticipate well over 500 unique visitors and can handle a capacity across the two day event upwards of 3,000. Let’s make this happen!
Monday, 27 October, 2014
To some a Sober Halloween sounds like an oxymoron similar to “jumbo shrimp” or “working holiday.” Nevertheless, people love jumbo shrimp and look forward to working holidays. If we are feeling positive, a Sober Halloween is possible and maybe even fun!
Where should I go? Do I dress up? What am I going to be? These types of questions lead to reminiscing about past Halloweens. We start to ponder about when trick or treating for candy turned into jello shots, smoking blunts and pill popping? And then we hit the reset button and find our way back on the sober path from our day dream.
Here are 3 easy reminders for when you are feeling challenged this Halloween.
- Make a Plan A and a Plan B. Be proactive and schedule your sober fun for Halloween day and the weekend as well. Don’t wait until the last minute. Start now!
- Do not put your sobriety to the test. Do not be with people who are using or attend parties with drugs and alcohol. Know your triggers and stay focused on the sober path.
- Create new Halloween memories with new people, in new environments. Stop romanticizing the past and start enjoying your present.
May the Force Be with You as you do the next right thing this Season. Happy Halloween from Lifeskills South Florida Outpatient.
Friday, 19 September, 2014
Monday, 15 September, 2014
Practicing wellness is essential to behavioral health. During SAMHSA’s 4th annual National Wellness Week, use Facebook and Twitter to share how you enhance your physical, emotional, social, intellectual, spiritual, financial, occupational, and environmental wellness. Use the hashtag #ShareWellness when you post a photo, video, or message of your favorite health and wellness activities.
Stay involved in the #ShareWellness social media conversation to learn more about wellness and gather ideas for new wellness activities that could improve your overall health and well-being. For more information aboutSAMHSA’s National Wellness Week 2014, stay connected with SAMHSA on Twitter (@samhsagov) and Facebook.
Wednesday, 10 September, 2014
Today is World Suicide Prevention Day and I have lots of resources to share with you.
Now Matters Now is an online DBT skills training program. (This is an exciting project!)
Later today there will be a BPD Chat on Twitter that’s all about how to handle a crisis.
Crisis resources and hotlines are listed here.
I like the idea behind the Semicolon Project.
Trying to figure out why you might want to stay alive? Marsha Linehan has developed a Reasons for Living Inventory. If you’d like a copy, email me.
Please don’t give up!
About Hope for BPD
The mission of Hope for BPD is all about educating you about evidence-based treatment and helping you to connect with compassionate clinicians and great treatment programs globally so you can make smart health care decisions.
Remember, consultation does not take the place of quality care and treatment with a licensed health care provider.
If you are interested in getting better or helping someone you love to get better then you’ve already made the first step.
You can reach me by telephoning (941) 704-4328 or by e-mailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I’d absolutely love to hear from you!
Tuesday, 2 September, 2014
Thanks for the kind words! I’m truly blessed to be able to come back to D.C. I never thought it was possible. Lifeskills was such an instrumental part of getting me started on my journey and I’m so happy I made the decision to come there instead of doing an IOP in D.C. I’ll let my parents know that you said “hello!” They are actually coming to visit me in a couple of weeks before school starts again. There is so much change happening, but it is truly exciting! I will definitely keep you updated :)! Thank you for reaching out. It made my day!
Thursday, 28 August, 2014
Thursday, 28 August, 2014
When a family member decides to take their own life they leave a legacy of pain. Although this might be an unintended side effect it does not minimize the pain experienced by the surviving family members. While we can never really know how much pain another is experiencing. And we feel compassion for those who end their lives. We must remind ourselves that problems in our lives and emotional pain are short lived, things change. It was so ironic that Robin Williams was quoted as saying “suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem”. Remember hope, have empathy, love our children, laugh, play, ask for help, let others in, we are part of a bigger whole-connected-one. Don’t leave a legacy of pain.